I'm Seeking a Wife
Jerry Banfield
If you are a woman who wants a real marriage, wants children, and is tired of dating that drifts without clarity, you may recognize yourself in this book.
If you are a man who wants an honest example of what it looks like to clearly state your intentions for love, marriage, and family, you may also find value here.
This is a book I wrote directly to my future wife. I do not know who you are yet, but I am writing to you anyway, clearly and intentionally. I am single, sober, and seeking a deeply loving, monogamous marriage and a family with at least two more children.
I am a full-time author living in St. Petersburg, Florida. I am a devoted father of two children. I live a health-centered, substance-free life. I do not drink, smoke, or use mind-altering substances. I live without social media, video games, or television. I stay active through tennis, yoga, lifting, and daily movement. I am deeply committed to recovery through Alcoholics Anonymous and to building a home rooted in safety, affection, emotional honesty, and presence.
If you are a woman who wants children, values health and sobriety, appreciates depth, and feels energized by intentional living, you may feel something when you read this. My hope is simply that the right woman reads it and recognizes the life being described here.
If you are a man reading this, my hope is that it shows what is possible when you stop performing, stop posturing, and simply state what you want with honesty and responsibility. This is not a formula or a strategy. It is an example of what it looks like to live with clarity and invite the right kind of life rather than chasing attention or approval.
I wrote this in February 2026, and it represents my attempt to meet love through depth, truth, and intention rather than surface-level interaction. If reading this feels grounding, clarifying, or quietly exciting, the full book continues in the same spirit.
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