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Persuade Don't Preach: Restoring Civility Across the Political Divide

Karen Tibbals

Summary

Would you like to have Thanksgiving without yelling at your uncle about politics? How about spending the day with your in-laws on the opposite side of the aisle without walking on eggshells? Your best friend from high school? Your neighbor? The list goes on. Persuade, Don't Preach will give you the tools to have productive conversations with those you don't see eye to eye with.
Description
As a society, we've become so polarized, we don't know how to talk to each other anymore. When we disagree, we often start to preach. And then the other person freezes or explodes. The next thing we know, we're even more polarized than we were to begin with.
What's the key to get past this?
It all comes down to persuading instead of preaching.
Karen Tibbals distills the latest social science research to create a practical plan for talking to each other in a respectful and civil way—a way that enables people to get past their differences.
Persuade, Don't Preach explains why people differ and why what we're doing now simply doesn't work. You'll understand why particular groups of people focus on certain issues. This knowledge will bring you to true understanding and guide you to developing a plan for approaching people you disagree with in a way that restores civility and allows them to listen.
About the Author:
Karen Tibbals is a passionate author and speaker who came to writing books after studying why people act the way they do for decades as part of her successful corporate career as a marketing researcher.
She took a detour from her career for a degree in religion from Earlham School of Religion. Karen was so excited about what she learned that it totally changed how she thought about life and politics! To capture these thoughts, she has written two books about applying these theories to life as well as marketing and marketing research.
Karen has used these theories to develop the Ethical Frames model and its applications. She gives speeches and workshops to raise awareness about our Ethical Frames and how to use them—in life, in politics, in marketing, and in management. Contact her at info@ethicalframes.com to learn more.
Testimonial
From Brent Bill, Quaker author: "Persuade, Don't Preach is an important resource for those who would like to see more civil discourse around hard issues in our polarized society. Quakers and others who seek to see that of God in all people will find it especially helpful."
From Patricia Kane, former Director of Education, NJ Audubon:
[Persuade, Don't Preach] is an amazing breakthrough on getting productive dialogue started … with examples [that] are simple and easy to implement and adapt to personal style.

From Leigh Tolton, Pastor, West Elkton Friends: "This amazing book is saving families."

Available since: 04/25/2020.

2 Comments

Laura

This book provided relevant and easy-to-follow examples and tips for how to communicate and persuade others. It focuses mostly on political issues but these tips could be applied to any message you are trying to convey. I often struggle with understanding how others could disagree with me on what feels (to me) like very obvious "right" and "wrong" issues. This book helps to uncover the underlying ethical framework that lead people to their beliefs and disagreements and defines strategies for leveraging those ethical zones to get others to see your point of view. Once you read the book, you start seeing examples everywhere of how the concepts could be/are being used!
Claudia

“Persude, Don’t Preach: Restoring Civility across the Political Divide,” is a must-read for any individual, group, or organization that seeks to influence or sway others to their point-of-view. In what is a very divided country, Americans are either talking passed each other ineffectively, or retreating into the safety of the communities to which they belong and identify.

Building on the insightful concepts introduced in her first book, “Ethical Frames”, Karen J. Tibbals masterfully delivers a deep dive into how people’s inherent and/or learned beliefs and values filter their world view. And if you want to influence them or change their behavior in some way, you first need to understand their values and beliefs, or Ethical Frames.

After explaining the richly researched science behind her key concepts, such as how our sense of Belonging drives our attitudes, Tibbals provides a thoughtful, pragmatic step-by-step process for initiating effective communications with others despite our different mindsets. While it’s challenging to sum up such a detailed, documented work in just a few words, suffice it to say, this book is a blueprint for communicating respectfully across our many cultural, social, and political divides to influence, persuade, and inspire change.

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