Amstinderdam - Online Dating in Amsterdam
In a world where sex and acting like a porn star in bed is normal or even expected, but where feelings are totally taboo...what happens to a divorced mom when she goes on Tinder for the first time of her life?Clearly, enough happens for her to start writing everything about her dates in an Excel sheet and for her to end up writing a full fucking novel about it. (“Fucking” here is meant literally and figuratively)This, is AmsTINDERdam: a genuine, candid and autobiographical testimony.I don’t see Tinder as something that needs criticizing or that will create an online buzz and boost my book sales. Hell, I was just hoping Tinder would boost my sex life to begin with.But...after 3 first dates, I quickly realized that I should better keep an excel file of all my dating experiences because it was just too “WTF” to get lost in my poor tired mom memory.Was it me? Men? Society nowadays? Tinder and the Candy Store Syndrome? Was I just too open? Too French? Too tattooed, too horny or too fat? Were Dutch men really that weird? Was it because I had been in a long relationship for almost two decades? Did I lose contact with the reality of dating? Was it because it was 2019? What the fuck was going on? (Believe me, I still don’t have the answer to this question. Maybe you do?)I know, keeping an Excel file about my dates seems a bit extreme, I can’t deny that. It’s just that I’m a natural born storyteller. So I saved the important data, for an eventual book. And I also allowed for some “extreme dating” to happen, in order to get more data. Extreme dating means that I went out of my comfort zone. First date on a sailboat in the middle of nowhere? Ok. Date with a 23 years old? Ok. Date with a goddess? Hell yeah.AmsTINDERdam is the result.I saw Tinder as a tool, something that would help me out of my extreme loneliness, that would boost my self confidence after a divorce, or allow me to have some fun sexually... and maybe, MAYBE, I could find there someone to love and to share some real intimacy with.
I never imagined it would change my life in so many ways.What happens, for real, on Tinder? Like, FOR REAL?Come, read AmsTINDERdam, and find out.